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What does teaching math have to do with NVC?

Let’s start with how Not to teach non-violently:
“If you don’t learn math, you won’t get a job!” -This was my reply to a student in one of my high school classes in 2001 who asked “Why do we have to learn this stuff?” Predictably, my reply did not go over well. At the time (15 years ago, Really??) I (think) I felt fed up with the kids lack of motivation, and they felt it. They even told me so. Problem is, that turned into a vicious cycle of me against most of my kids, rather than us cooperating as a community of learners, as I had imagined.
If I had known that my (un-intentional) seeking of validation from my work of teaching, and that essentially blaming my students for their learning difficulties was the source of my difficulty in teaching them, I might have been able to help them more, using Non-Violent Communication techniques, and SuperNanny classroom management, which I didn’t learn about until some years later.

Hope this helps others,
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15 March, 12016 HE


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17 March, 12016 HE
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Originally posted 2012-11-30, so I don't know if they are still around:
Infant-PreKs need cribs: http://www.jubileejumpstart.org/
   I had the opportunity, thanks to Alice Burton, to be able to meet last night with some wonderful people working with vulnerable infants and todlers in DC. The group is called Jubilee Jumpstart:

http://www.jubileejumpstart.org/
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ShiraDest
19 February, 12016 HE
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Historia de La Esclavitud Negra En Puerto RicoHistoria de La Esclavitud Negra En Puerto Rico by Luis M. Soler

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


This extensive and not easy to read, but well worthwhile history of slavery in Puerto Rico, shows the importance not only of where we have been, but also what tools we have now and how to evaluate them in the light of past and present situations. The author comments that a Cooperative could have saved the small coffee producers of Puerto Rico, though not on whether that would have enabled the liberation of their enslaved workers. Yet this is a step forward in the analysis of both labour relations and the history of People of Color in the Americas.

I now also know that the family of my enslaved 5xGreat Grandfather Miles Manzilla, Sr. could even have originated in Spain itself, potentially. Our shared origins are important to know, both for understanding why enslaved workers would have defended their masters during Indian attacks, and also in deciding how to relate to our history of enslavement today. What feelings remain to be resolved on all sides?

P. 15 del pdf = P. 21 del libro
La Corona y los esclavagistas se creaban liberales y generosos, evidentemente, pero sus

esclavos no compartieron ese sentimiento!
The Crown and owners thought themselves generous, but their slaves disagreed!


P. 25=32: Ya sabîa Bartolomé de Las Casas pero no de Fray Antonio de Montesinos a favor de los

indigenes.
Dominicans vs Franciscans ??

P.33 Las Ordenanzas No Fueron Cumplidas... (The Orders of the King to protect the

Indigenous/Indian/Native Population Not Obeyed...)

but "Como si los indios fuesen africanos!" -Nice, Thanks. Now I know which part of my blood

sits higher...


P.33=P.40: At least he admitted his error before he died; Al menos se admetîa su error antes

de su muerte.

Updates online... (Courtney, Richard H., Ruth A., Michelle, Thomas and Mel will certainly like

this book, and Akshat Liked an early update...)


P.77pdf=P.86 del documento: The author thinks that a Cooperative would have saved small

producers in PR from the falling coffee prices (due to Cuban overproduction)...

P.109pdf=P.119 book: Pardos must be like me: morenos claros ?


P. 111pdf=P.119 book: Alot of English testimony from ship captains: 14 British citizens sold

into slavery by contrabandists, apparently never freed (though 7 were identified!!).


P. 126 So France had a Black Code, too? Of course, where did the southern colonies/states

(USA) get them from...


3 November, 1839: Pope Gregory XVI condemned the Slave Trade? and Baltimore, and Maryland...

In summary, there was not only lots of Mestisage, but a good bit of back-and-forthing of slaves between PR and the English and French-speaking colonies. Thus, entirely possible that Miles Manzilla, Sr's family was of Spanish colony origin.

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ShiraDest
18 February, 12016 HE




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The night before, I dreamt I was a consultant on a ship w/an insane captain somewhere in the North Atlantic, with giant waves that froze around us like a white out. I ordered and got a shovel, dying digging while the sailors around me gaped as if I were the crazy one. No, digging did not help, but at least I think I died on my feet.

Last night, it was me being attacked by a crocodile : not sure if it was Sacred or not, but at least I died warm!

Ok, I will admit that trippling the number of km Power Walked (Fr, but accessible) (in compensation for km not run, trying to reach 45km/week by mid-March (English, log in needed) ) may not have been the best idea I've had lately, but why the renewed 'My Life is in Serious Danger' dreams now that I've stopped running/walking for the last 4 days?

While I know that Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) aka la Dépression Hivernal, is linked to light, but also to excercise levels (which is why I always take my walks and runs early in the morning), I wonder if the feeling of a cold or flu coming on, combined with having to rest the ankle tendon due to my own stupidity, makes me feel powerless? Obviously the answer is Yes! But it remains irritating, and a bit scary, to see how quickly those fears and despair of just a short while ago can come screaming back, threatening to overwhelm you, just after a few days of darker than usual weather (weekends I generally do not write, so do not sit with my SunLamp), and enforced 'rest' (which is making me more restless by the day, but with a tendon still aching for no apparent reason...).

So, dear friends, my reason for writing this post is as follows: if you feel down, do not give in to despair. Drink a spicy hot chocolate (soy milk and Fair Trade chocolate with cayenne if possible, but if you feel rotten, just a hot choc. may help), and then turn on the lights for a few minutes, and bask in them. Then, get out a pad of paper, and write. Preferably while you wriggle your toes and think of Frodo Baggins!

Then, plan to change your life. Taking risks is scary, but sometimes the only way to make life better, for you and for someone else. Don't let those dreams that tell you your life is in danger go unheeded: especially if the one putting you life in danger might be You.

Human Love,

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ShiraDest
31 January, 12016 HE
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originally posted 24.11.12015 HE on:
https://shiradest.wordpress.com/2015/11/24/glad-i-shared-a-smile-that-day/comment-page-1/#comment-103

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Short story: glad I smiled at someone I did not know -who thanked me, and made me grateful to be alive, back in 2005. And also today.

Less short version of the story:
Ok, so after a useless day yesterday of only 1100 words written, and desperate fears of 8 more days zero, (I have another 10k words to write), I was reflecting on the use, or lack thereof, of my life.
moving morose meditation on beauty to bottom…

When I lived in Izmir, that summer I took long walks on Saturday afternoons. I had the habit of smiling, or at least nodding, to every person I saw because frankly, I hoped someone would smile or nod back at me. At least acknowledge me as a fellow human being, as I tried to do, even passing the homeless people lining the streets as you go into the Metro (DC).

So, I nodded at a lady in passing, never met her, just kept going because I was too tired to say Gunaydin (Good Morning/afternoon in Turkish), and my Turkish was only rudimentary any way.
Then I heard a call behind me. I turned to see that woman walking back toward me, and her eyes were glistening.
She put her hand on my chest, nothing scary, nothing sexual, just an ordinary safe contact, and said, in very simple Turkish that was clear and slow, that in five years in Izmir, no one had every greeted her. She thanked me, and I nodded in return, too moved to get out even one word of Turkish. We both turned and went our own ways. And now, over ten years later, I am glad that I smiled at a random person whom I had never met, and never saw again.
I hope that I can share that joy with …
Everyone.

On the uselessness of being beautiful:
I have always hated being called pretty, beautiful, fine, foxy, etc, and being thanked for existing by some guy who apparently thought I was the equivalent of a painting on the wall for him to admire. well, not so useful. But when YOU (any of you, dear readers!!) smile, you too are beautiful, no matter what you look like. You are beautiful, and USEFUL, when you smile at another human being just to acknowledge that he (or she) too, exists, and is worthy of recognition as a human being.
Smiles, (2000 more words to go, it is 3:30pm -aghh!!)
Shira
24 November, 12015 HE
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Sorry, not to defend them in any way shape or form, but terrorists are not all psychopaths. This is a crucial distinction to make because most of those kids who blew themselves up recently were brainwashed, just like Patricia Hearst, just like the people in Waco, TX, and just like the 600 followers of Jim Jones. They were all people who felt, maybe felt too much, even had compassion, and got that compassion used against them because they did not know how to ask questions and keep asking where the answers to those questions came from. Just like when I was in a cult group.

First they love-bomb you, half a dozen bear hugs from people you do not know, and the leader and sub-leaders welcoming you with open arms into the family. Kind of like the military, only generally fewer push-ups. But just as much peer-bonding, belonging, and then starts the real pressure. You help convert others to believing because you care about them, you want to save them from suffering, and in any case, a better life awaits them on the other side. So almost no matter what you do TO the non-believer, you are actually doing FOR that person's own good, whether they know/accept it or not. This is USING a vulnerable believers Compassion against him/her, to obtain compliance and even active support when that person (who is neither a leader, sub-leader, nor even a psychopath) is made to feel guilty for not helpping the non-believers -help being defined as the leader defines it. Pamphlets, tracts, harrasment, stalking, forced-conversions, exorcisms, even torture or killing are all justified by the leader as better-for-the-non-believers-and-you-as-a-True-Believer are A BAD Believer if you do not Help these unbelievers in The Way that the leader tells you to. No Questions Asked.

And yes, I speak from experience. Fortunately, I started having panic attacks when I could no longer swallow what my cult leader said, and left, but it still took my months to get out, and years to understand what had happened. And that was with help! These kids indoctrinated by DAESCH are being brainwashed in a similar way, and they also feel isolated, or they would not have been attracted to DAESCH/ISIS, which is essentially a very large, very well-organised and very sophisticated and yet still manipulative cult group.

So please, when The Canard enchaîné (p. 8 yesterday, 25.11.2015) says that Gerhard Roth in Brême is reporting a psyopath gene in an article on terrorism, please remember that the majority of terrorist foot soldiers are only dupes, manipulated to pull the trigger, and in need of help, not just tracking and certainly not torture. It was the torture in Abu Garib and other American prisons that created this in the first place, remember (cannot find the show that re-aired on France television last week, but it showed all the top guys having met and 'hardened' in the big US prison in Iraq...).

Remember that Eisenhower ended segregation for similar reasons -to deprive Japan of potential progaganda against the US, which is what the terrorist leaders are now using to convert western kids into their pawns.

 

Bottom line, we need to walk our talk as a society and take care of the most vulnerable so that there is less to use against us. We need to feed our hungry, clothe our naked, and comfort our sick. Educating our folks for free would be even better, so they can ask the right questions, and create the cooperative jobs that will give us true democracy and equality.

Backk to trying to write 2200 words of climtic chapter, ughghhh...

In Solidarity with All Kind People,
Peace via Cooperation and Non-Cooperation,

ShiraDest

26 November 12015 HE
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First of all, it gives us something in common with our future conquerors, ok just kidding!!

First of all, it is a Free way to socialize in a non-superficial way.
Second, it is physically and mentally health-full (free) activity.
Third, it teaches part of the skills needed for physical self-defense.
and
Fourth, it teaches moving meditation, needed for emotional self-defense.

Did I mention that being together thing, next to other folks of all ages, especially those older folks, who know how to do it all best for having done it for years?
And did I mention the FREE thing, as in spend no money, just move slowly in the public park?

1. If the first point needs explaining, please let me know.

2. I think everyone knows the health benefits of Tai Chi.

3. Many people may not know that this Soft side complement of Chinese Kung Fu is required by many instructors, like my own Shi Fu, in addition to the so called hard side, the fast Kung Fu. The same blocks and attacks or counter-attacks are used, but as slowly as possible, forcing you to develop your balance and stong muscle coordination.
4. On emotional self-defense, of which I believe meditation is an important part, having the strength of sternum to straighten your back and say "I Refuse" to a big drunk guy can often come from your memory of many expensive Tai Chi lessons after those expensive Kung Fu lessons. Worked for me. Again, ask for details if interested, please.
Ok, time to make dinner, too bad the baby lima beans I remember as a kid no longer seem to be around. Oh well, just have to train those pigeons to go fetch some decent corn and beans. Oh, no more carrier pigeons either. What, did Tom poison them all?
Peace,
In Solidarity with All Kind People,
Peace via Cooperation and Non-Cooperation,

ShiraDest

21 November, 12015 HE
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LoupLoup by Nicolas Vanier

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


(la traduction français est on bas...)

This was a very interesting and well-written coming-of-age story. (I'd like to see the 2009 film version.) Vanier manages early on to build reader sympathy for a predator which he show as such, in detail. He also surprised me by showing the shame of a man being willingly taken advantage of sexually by a woman (something I will grudgingly admit to never having believed possible). Never mincing his words, you feel the harshness of both worlds, human and wolf, while also feeling (for me, at least) connected to both. An excellent job emotionally and also from an ecology standpoint.

Cette histoire de devenir adulte faisait plaisir à lire. (J'aimerais voir le film de 2009.) Vanier a réussi très tôt de faire sentir de l'empathie pour un prédateur qu'il montre tel comme il est, et avec des détails. Il m'a réussi d'étonner, aussi, côte émotionnelle chez les hommes, en montrant qu'il est bien possible qu'an homme aussi peut se sentir abusé sexuellement par un femme, même après avoir faite l'amour volontairement. Jamais trop douce, on sent la dureté des deux mondes, humain tant que lupin, en sentant aussi (pour moi, au moins) connecté avec tous les deux. Du bon boulot émotionnelle et aussi d'un point de vue écolo.
(Si vous avez, les Amies, des corrections pour mon français, j’accepte volontiers...)


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Peace via Cooperation and Non-Cooperation,

ShiraDest

21 November, 12015 HE



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<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17719589-ne-l-che-pas-ma-main" style="float: left; padding-right: 20px"><img alt="Ne lâche pas ma main" border="0" src="https://d.gr-assets.com/books/1372400265m/17719589.jpg" /></a><a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17719589-ne-l-che-pas-ma-main">Ne lâche pas ma main</a> by <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/956263.Michel_Bussi">Michel Bussi</a><br/>
My rating: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/1366206306">4 of 5 stars</a><br /><br />
Busssi shows us a world within another world ; that of people of color and the prejudices which the tourists do not see.  He describes the island so well that you feel as if you were there, and finishes with a final word so moving it demands thought, and even an immediate re-read.  (Also may go well with <a href="http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/353598.Black_Feminist_Thought__Knowledge__Consciousness__and_the_Politics_of_Empowerment" title="Black Feminist Thought  Knowledge, Consciousness, and the Politics of Empowerment by Patricia Hill Collins">Black Feminist Thought: Knowledge, Consciousness, and the Politics of Empowerment</a>, many thanks to Ruth for her review: <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/1356704325?book_show_action=false&from_review_page=1" target="_blank">https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...</a>.<br><br>Shira HoloceneHuman Era Destinie<br>24 August, 12015 HE<br><br>BUSSI nous montre le monde dans un autre monde, celle de gens de couleur et les préjuges invisibles  aux touristes.  Il décrit l’île si bien qu'on se sent la-ba même, et fini la dernier mot si jaillissant qu'on ne peut pas s’arrêter de y penser, et même le relire tout de suite.   <br><br>24,8,12 015 èH( ère Holocène ou ère Humaine)<br>ShiraDest<br><br>
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Read from July 10 to 17, 2015

Blackout est un thriller qui donne un vision des sombres possibilités mais aussi qu'inspire l’espoir. Le réalisme effrayant du comportement humain est visible, mais la coopération et aussi visible. Pourtant, je ne voudrais jamais prendre un ascenseur autre fois !

Blackout is a thriller that gives a vision of terrible possibilities, but also inspires hope. The frightening reality of human behavior, but also of cooperation, are both visibme. Still, I hope never to take an elevator again!

Shira "Holocene/Human Era" Destinie Jones LANDRAC
July, 12015 HE


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     In thinking of why I love to run, I recall the feeling of freedom when running, which I never found elsewhere, even from flying (as a student pilot flying was more of a kill-joy for me!).  And a sense of comaraderie that, in thinking back, I suddenly realized is linked to one of my very few happy childhood memories.

     My father sent me to a DC Army National Guard summer camp when I was 14, where I met the first 'foreign' friend, and the only person who ever ran with me.  He was a dark muscular guy from Tanzania, and also the only person there with whom I could share -we talked as we ran, or, I ran, while he merely jogged.  I appreciated his effort to  to accomodate my slower stride, and his attentive listening.  I can only hope that I was as attentive a listener as he was.  I recall being fascinated to hear about his home in Africa, yet irritated that everyone assumed we were dating.  Sex was the farthest thing from my mind (I have no clue how he felt) at the time.  The fact that someone took the time to share his thoughts with me, listen to mine, and that we could stay in step together was the cornerstone of our friendship.  Sadly, we lost touch after that camp, but I have always recalled and sought that same comaraderie, brotherhood.

    So now I can finally come back to running, and hope perhaps to find a similar friendship.  See <a href="http://moncarnet.org/afficher-carnet-de-shiradest&an=2015">My training so far: 2015</a>

   I am too tired to translate this at the moment, but since I am mostly writing it for a franco-hispanophone person I know, I will finish later.

Shira "HolocenHumanEra" Dest.
2nd July, 12015 HE



1re km en 8:17
donc, 2me km = 7:57 mais terminé avec plus d'effort

J'ai trottiné plus vite aujourd'hui et étonnement, je m'a senti beaucoup meilleure en trottinant plus vite qu'en 'trottinant' aussi lentement possible !

Voici <a href="http://moncarnet.org/afficher-carnet-de-shiradest&an=2015">Mon carnet 2015</a>

Shira èreHolocèneHumane Destinie
2 de julliet, année 12015 èH

(https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calendrier_holocène)


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Bénévole

La Cimade
(1 year)Lorient Area, France

J'aide les autres bénévoles avec les traductions de français, turc et d'l espagnol à l'anglais.

ShiraDest
Mars, 12015-12016 èH (ère Holocene)



I wish I could be of more help...


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19 March, 12016 HE
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Merci pour soutenir La Laicité et la liberté du presse.
Teşşekurler Laicité  ve basın özgürlüğü destek  ıçın.
Thank you for supporting the Separation of Church and State, and freedom of the Press.

ShiraDestinie -"Je Suis Charlie"

14 Ocak 2015 Çarşamba == 14 January 2015 Wednesday == 14 janvier 2015 mercredi == 14 Jan. 12015 Samedi/Saturday 12015 HE (Human Era)



http://www.cumhuriyet.com.tr/video/video/184541/Cumhuriyet_Gazetesi_onunde_guvenlik_onlemi.html

"Nous sommes tous Charlie"

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"Ancient:
"If it be right and honest to be spoken or done, undervalue not thyself so much, as to be discouraged from it." from The Meditations of Marcus Aurelius

Modern:
"... beware the dangers of Groupthink! Just because all your mates think it’s a good idea is not a good reason for agreeing something – co-operatives need assertive members who think for themselves and share their opinions including fears and reservations." from: Cooperantics

Cooperatives are actually the anti-thesis of the accusation that we of "communitarian ideology" do not think critically and scientifically. To the contrary -principled critical thinking is essential to real cooperation.

Peace and Full Potential for All,
Shira Destinie Jones Landrac, of The MEOW CC Blog

Gregorian Date: Friday, 12 September 2014

MEOW Date : Tuesday, 12 September, 12014 H.E. (Holocene Era, aka Human Era)

https://network23.org/communitycoop/2014/09/12/marcus-aurelius-would-agree-beware-the-dangers-of-groupthink/
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The ground-breaking novella Herland was a good start, but lacked a vision of fully inclusive equality. The MEOW Vision builds on Gilman’s ideas, with the aim of Fully Inclusive Equality.

The Goals (allowing each person to contribute fully):

1. Each person, as a child, must learn to swim (or at least float).
2. Each child must learn emotional/psychological self-defense and physical self-defense to the greatest extent possible, in a Gandhian context.
(1 and 2 are part of the pre-Adulthood criteria: http://meowdate.dreamwidth.org/6177.html ...)

3. Each child, at birth, receives half a hectare of land, non-alienable. He or she may rent, lend or swap the land, but always remains the owner. Where ever the location, it should have a well and be arable.
4. Fresh water for ever person (free!)
5. Each family should have a book in the local public library, containing the autobiography of every adult in the family (which means that each person needs free time and the means to write his or her autobiography).

(the same Goals in Spanish:)
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Un programa de Igualdad y Salud para Todos

Las Metas (para que todos pueden contribuir lo mejor):

1. Cada quien, de niño, debe aprender nadar
2. Que cada quien de niño aprende defenderse
3. Que cada bebe, al nacer, recibe .5 hectarios de terreno, que nunca se puede desprender. Se lo puede alquilar o prestar, pero siempre sigue esta persona como dueño o dueña del terreno. Que sea donde sea, será con un poso de agua y capaz de agricolar.
4. Agua potable para cada persona
5. Que cada familia tenga un libro en la biblioteca publica, con resumen del autobiografía de cada persona de la familia (eso quiere decir que cada quien tenga el tiempo libre y los recursos para escribir su autobiografia)

Peace,

Gregorian Date: Tuesday, 9 September 2014
MEOW Date : Saturday, 9 September, 12014 H.E. (Holocene Era, aka Human Era)

https://network23.org/communitycoop/2014/09/09/the-meow-vision-a-bit-like-herland-but-more-equal/
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The Girl, a hybrid from the poorest district in India, begins and ends very well. In between, she tells us how intergenerational committment to shared ideals outweighs, but is affected by, historical differences. Opposing communities use open communication (telephathy helps force the issue), positive action, and common ideals to confront oppression.

While there are areas where the writing is a bit confusing, the ideas ring true, and the reader is drawn into a conflict where a young woman must find herself, and lead others in the fight. A refreshing turnabout. I look forward to reading the sequel, which is the next book on The Diversity Book Tour.

ShiraDestinie
Gregorian Date: Sunday, 7 September, 2012
MEOW Date : Thursday, 7 September, 12014 H.E. (Holocene Era, aka Human Era)

https://network23.org/communitycoop/2014/09/08/intergenerational-committment-to-shared-ideals-outweighs-but-is-affected-by-historical-differences/
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Marriage and community: how marriage for all keeps us safe: an interpretation of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr’s call for a Basic Income…

If society exists to facilitate the maximization of potential of each member of society, and if a couple gives more to society together than as two individuals, then it behooves the community to support and encourage every couple to stay together and contribute as a stable couple to society.

That allows a synergistic relationship to form where the couple gives more to the community, and is in turn reinforced by the community, enabling them to be more effective both as a couple and as members of the community. Both members of the couple and the community are able to accomplish more through this mutually beneficial relationship. That is one social dynamic which would keep us all safer.

Lasting social stability, which as Dr. King pointed out is the only true means of riot prevention , requires a high level of cooperation. Marriage, with or without
procreation, encourages life-long committment, cooperative thinking, and a reduced Carbon Footprint. These can help stabilize society and build further cooperation.

Preventing torture and sensless killings, such as that of Travon Williams, depends on the existence and maintainance of respect and trust within and between communities so that they can then cooperate effectively to prevent the dehumanization and hate crimes which ultimately result from lack of understanding and cooperative interaction between indivuduals and communities. Part of this, as Dr. King pointed out, involves having food, shelter and clothing. A Basic or Citizen’s Income would provide that. Social supports and minimum livable economic supports build a society that can then become fully democratic, free, equal, and harmonious.

Peace through Community Cooperation,
ShiraDestinie of The MEOW CC Blog

Gregorian Date: Thursday, 12 April 2012
MEOW Date : Thursday, 12 April, 12012 H.E. (Holocene Era, aka Human Era)

https://network23.org/communitycoop/2014/09/08/marriage-and-community-dr-king-showed-us-how-marriage-for-all-can-keep-us-safe/
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Don’t Step on a Crack -this thriller is more bones than meat.

In his plot-driven thriller, Patterson at least tries to add meat by starting with two wonderful marriages, alas for the women. Perhaps they might have given the benefit of their experience, had they lived, to an idea that does have meat, if a bit of grisle.Community Match-making, or, The Marriage Cooperative: an idea worth (re-)trying?

My great-grandmother had a potholder that said “Cookin’ Lasts, Kissin’ Don’t” -the idea being that marriage is for life. The idea is that single people looking for spouses form a group and take turns being the match-maker for each other.

That should help committment and companionship , the things that last, guide the decision to marry, rather than a possibly short-lived feeling of love that may evaporate in hard times.

Each single person would find 4 trusted long-term friends/family to form his/her “marriage panel”. That panel would be empowered to look over the match-maker’s possible matches for the single person, and then meet with the marriage panels of the possible dating candidates. (Obviously, the single can always over-ride the panel’s suggestions.) The match-maker and both marriage panels then meet and discuss the match before the two singles are introduced to each other. That way at least 8 people who know the two singles have a chance to agree on whether those two could form a healthy happy marriage. That should reduce the stress for each single person, and there are 9 people guarranteed to support the marriage.

Thoughts?
Shira Destinie
Gregorian Date: Saturday, 6 September, 2014
MEOW Date : Wednesday, 6 September, 12014 H.E. (Holocene Era, aka Human Era)

https://network23.org/communitycoop/2014/09/06/dont-step-on-a-crack-use-the-marriage-cooperative-instead/
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At the 2012 DC Social Forum, we came to a consensus: Public Banks, Time Banks and small groups build Cooperative Society.

The joint presentations at the DC Social Forum, which was held in the DC Friend’s Meeting House, a wonderful historical building, were fascinating. And disturbing.

Fascinating because they all centered around the need to move from our consumerist and big box model of capitalism toward one which includes all of the people in the governance process.

Disturbing because everyone also agreed on the need for us to have a societal culture of cooperation and egalitarianism, or a willingness to cooperate to create and use a level playing field for all people. Then everyone agreed that getting there from here would take a very long time.

One of the tools mentioned included Public Banks, such as the one in North Dakota, and currently being considered by the Mayor in DC, apparently. This is something to look into for the immediate future as a completely doable step which has in fact already been implemented in many places, according to the presenter.

Another tool is Time Banking and the creation and use of various complementary or community currencies, such as Ithaca Hours, or Anacostia Hours here in DC alongside the local time bank, DC Time Bank.org. Time Banks in particular create and build trust and cooperation in an egalitarian mode within the community.

A further tool was the use of non-hierarchical methods and clarity on the point that groups must be set up with no more than 150 members in order to avoid creation of hierarchy, with lessons being drawn from the Cuban revoluntion of 1959 by a Hungarian professor presenting.

A final vision was one in which society is entirely cooperative, resulting in the contributions of all members being valued. Cultural change toward a valuing of equal participation, voice, and cooperation was espoused, along with the understanding that this does not happen overnight. With consistent work and faith in our evolving ability to cooperate, we continue forward.

Peace, through Community Cooperation,
ShiraDestinie
Gregorian Date: Thursday, 12 April 2012
MEOW Date : Thursday, 12 April, 12014 H.E. (Holocene Era, aka Human Era)

https://network23.org/communitycoop/2014/09/06/dc-social-forum-consensus-public-banks-time-banks-and-small-groups-build-cooperative-society/
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Art may have helped free individuals who were property, by acting in community

Tracy Chevalier’s The Last Runaway show’s how different interpretations of art, and even sometimes silence, helped free enslaved people. She portrays the self-discipline and quiet determination of a young Quaker girl, in difficult times, working to be part of a helping community while caught in an individualistic household.

I often wonder how individualists are formed, and how one comes to be a communitarian in the midst of an individualistic society. There are myriad ways that a person can come to value community, myriad motivations, religious, secular, pragmatic, but that one values community over individual priorities, no matter what that valuing stems from, means that one will sacrifice personal desires for the good of the community. This is a value which experience shows me is little understood in American society today, particularly in the younger segments of our society. How do we come back to living the values of Duty, Honor, and Loyalty, and helping one another to live out a sense of honor in the tradition of Gandhi, Dr. King, Rabbi Hillel, the Sufi mystics, all of those who valued loving and inclusive community, from La Convivencia to Communes, but in a healthy and fully inclusive way that can stretch to encompass all of society, rather than a small group. How do we open the door to real and full, safe, secure yet honest dialogue?

A fellow bloger shows how art can build community and change economies today:

http://theloniouslegend.blogspot.fr/2014/09/interview-with-reggie-r-bythewood.html#gpluscomments

We who build community look to the Constitution to find ways, in keeping with the property system, to ensure that every person in this country has a safe home, however small, in which to live.

Shira Destinie
Gregorian Date: Friday, 5 September, 2014
MEOW Date : Tuesday, 5 September, 12014 H.E. (Holocene Era, aka Human Era)

https://network23.org/communitycoop/2014/09/05/did-art-help-free-enslaved-individuals/

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